Shattered trust. I
was sitting in peace and quiet contemplation when this subject appeared in my
mind. I have realized that my purpose is
to give children a voice, either fostering self-esteem or taking on issues that
are deeply hidden.
This
issue is one that is deeply hidden. I
feel compelled to write about sexual abuse committed to children by people in
authority. Namely the Jerry Sandusky
trial and what it means. Not that Jerry
Sandusky is the poster child of this subject there are many poster children for
this subject.
And
many poster children means many children who have hidden this secret somewhere
in their mind and body. I have no idea
whether or not I was ever molested myself.
None. I don’t remember huge
chunks of my childhood and that is one issue I don’t even want to bring in to
my new life moving forward so if it is a secret, it is a well hidden one that
will stay there. I do know that I have a
visceral reaction whenever I hear a story about one of these pedophiles, but perhaps
we all have a visceral reaction.
If
you look at all the priests and coaches and parents who have been accused of
doing something like this for every one child you see there are probably
hundreds, or thousands or even millions more.
The Catholic Church is known to have moved priests accused of child
molestation from parish to parish for decades if not longer. It is a stain that
they should own and seek God’s mercy for
every day of their lives. They should
have never allowed even one priest to shatter the innocence of one child and
put him somewhere else where he could do it to someone else.
With
coaches it’s the same thing, I guess a school or sports program does not want
to tarnish the reputation of the school, so they fire the said individual and
they don’t report it to the authorities and they hope it will go away. It does go away but it ends up somewhere
else, like Jerry Sandusky. He has 8
accusers so far but how many kids did he really molest who are too ashamed to
come forward and admit they are a victim.
That victimhood will follow them the rest of their lives if they don’t
confront what happened to them and find a way to make peace with it. They must
realize that they were a victim and get help to deal with it. Oftentimes a child feels there is nothing
they can do when this happens because first off , they believe no one will
believe them and secondly, they carry a shame so deep that they cannot admit
even to themselves that they did NOTHING to deserve this.
There
is never a reason to abuse a child. No
child deserves to live with this stain while the person who is responsible for
it just moves on along the road and does it to someone else. Meanwhile the child never really recovers
from the trauma and the shattered trust.
It takes years to deal with childhood trauma and years ago there was
such a stigma about mental health issues that now many adults walk around with
this private shame themselves.
I
ask them to find help, find love and don’t take the burdens of a sick person
into your soul. There are thousands of
mental health professionals who can help you to make peace with this violation
and make you whole again. And for the child molesters among us(and they know who they are), there is only the hope
that when they die they don’t come back in another life time and pick up where
they left off. It’s up to God or the universe to decide what
to do with them and hopefully he does a better job of it then the churches and
schools do.
Thank
you for reading it was a tough issue to deal with but I just felt called to do
so. To those abused innocents, I may not know exactly what you went through but
I do know how childhood trauma affected my life.
You are not alone. Bless you and
I hope you find peace in your soul.
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